After only being back in the USA for 14 days, 9 of which my preacher-man hubs was in fact, not in the USA, but rather New Zealand… I had the amazing privilege to share my heart at The School of the Supernatural hosted in Clarksville, TN. If that wasn’t exciting enough, I got to share along side of my Mother-In-Law and Sister-In-Law! We had a blast. It was a family affair.
So naturally, I want to share with you all what I spoke on… GLORIOUS MARRIAGE! The Divine Union.
In Genesis 2:18-25 (NLT) We see that this passage speaks to the creation of woman…
“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” So the Lord God formed from the ground all the wild animals and all the birds of the sky. He brought them to the man[a] to see what he would call them, and the man chose a name for each one. He gave names to all the livestock, all the birds of the sky, and all the wild animals. But still there was no helper just right for him. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’” This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.”
As we look through Genesis, we see that it was on the 6th day of Creation that God formed woman. After all of Creation had been put into place, God looked at man and said… it’s not good for him to be alone. What he did next, is somewhat perplexing… Because for most of creation God spoke it into existence or sang it into existence, BUT when He created man, he said let us make them in our image and in our likeness and it declares in Genesis 2:7, “Then the Lord God formed the man from the dust of the ground. He breathed the breath of life into the man’s nostrils, and the man became a living person.” Or another translation says, living soul.
God himself formed or fashioned man from the Earth and then breathed the breath of life, filling him with Heaven. Then out of the side of man, he took a rib and built woman.
Mark 10:6-9 (KJV), “But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
Twain, being such a fancy word for two… simply means y’all are no longer seperate… y’all are one and there is nothing that’s going to tear you apart -if God’s the one who put you together. (Matt 19:5, Eph. 5:31 are some great verses as well)
So, now that you know you are in this holy and divine union… how do you walk it out naturally? In the real. #realtalk
First, you need to Build A Solid Foundation! Just as you would have done as a single person cultivating your relationship with Jesus, you must now cultivate a firm foundation with your spouse, both naturally and spiritually. I believe, whatever you want to manifest in the natural you must first birth in the spirit…. So you have to cultivate it. How? I’m so glad you asked.
Pray Together: You must, must, must learn to pray together. In addition, get baptized in the Holy Spirit and pray together in the spirit, in heavenly tongues. (Acts 2:38) This will open you up to be sensitive in the spirit to one another and build a strong bond spiritually.
Often times I have newly married couples tell me they struggle with this… I have heard them say, ‘Well I need to pray alone. It is my personal relationship or well my husband/wife is shy and they don’t really want to. We have different styles of worship or praying…’ That’s great!! Keep being individuals. You can have all kinds of encounters with God separately, just don’t neglect the ones you have together. The key here is to be vulnerable and open, and allow the Holy Spirit to work it out and construct that foundation!!
Second way to walk out your Divine Union is through Communication! With the openness of praying together and expressing yourself spiritually to one another, communication is vital to the life of your marriage. Learn to communicate your needs or expressions without manipulation… because that is just plain witchcraft. Don’t try to butter up your husband or wife, trying to coerce the situation. And if you don’t tell him, he’s not going to know… it is just that simple. Men are not mind-readers and neither are women.
That may seem trivial or even an obvious point to you. But to others, who may have been raised by a Mother or Aunt or even Grandmother that manipulated her way through marriage to get the things she wanted, this is breakthrough for you! If you think of it in a parallel to your relationship to Jesus Christ, you aren’t going to work an angle to get his blessing or butter him up for forgiveness… NO! You are his Bride and his Wife and therefore, you are granted access to all that is his. You are a rightful heir to his goodness! The documents have been signed and legally there is a blood covenant (1 Cor. 6: 19-20). So just as that works with Christ, it should be reflective in your earthly marriages.
Ephesians 5: 22-28 (MSG) says it so beautifully, “Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands. Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage.”
Lastly, in walking out your Divine Union: Choose Honor. If you do the aforementioned in your communication, you will be deliberately choosing honor, which will then create an environment for your husband to fulfill those scriptures in Ephesians, for him to love you as Christ loves the church. You will also avoid the inevitable loss of respect and undermining of his authority in your home. You must make this a conscious choice and it does involve effort! Marriage isn’t for the faint of heart, it is for those willing to put in the work to see the glorious result.
So what is the result??
The result is a United Force, the Spirit of Unity resting and residing in your home and marriage. It is the Deuteronomy 32:30 – “One could put a thousand to flight and two could put ten thousand…” and Ecclesiastes 4:12, “A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.”
You have literally become that three-cord strand comprised of you, your spouse and God interwoven together. Anything that tries to come against what you have agreed upon, can not stand. With this knowledge of being intertwined, not only in the natural sense but also the spirit, you have what I call the art of agreement, or the power to decree a thing and watch it come into existence.
Proverbs 18:21 “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”
You have power in your words, and I will show you why…
Genesis 1:1-4 (AMP) reads, “In the beginning God (prepared, formed, fashioned, and) created the heavens and the earth. The earth was without form and an empty waste, and darkness was upon the face of the very great deep. The Spirit of God was moving (hovering, brooding) over the face of the waters. And God said, Let there be light; and there was light. And God saw that the light was good (suitable, pleasant) and He approved it; and God separated the light from the darkness.”
The light God spoke into existence in the beginning was not the Sun, Moon, Stars… because those were created on the 4th day of Creation. It was, in fact, the light of Christ, the Creative LIGHT! Therefore, it was not CREATED light, but rather CREATIVE.
John 1: 1-5 (AMP) reads, “In the beginning [before all time] was the Word ([a]Christ), and the Word was with God, and the Word was God [b]Himself. He was present originally with God. All things were made and came into existence through Him; and without Him was not even one thing made that has come into being. In Him was Life, and the Life was the Light of men. And the Light shines on in the darkness, for the darkness has never overpowered it [put it out or absorbed it or appropriated it, and is unreceptive to it].”
This CREATIVE LIGHT dwells on the inside of us, if we have been spiritually reborn by Christ. And just as the Holy Spirit brooded over the waters of the deep before creation, so the Holy Spirit can brood over the waters of our Earth bodies! It is scientifically known that we are made up of 60-70% water in the natural… and John 7:38 (AMP) declares, “He who believes in Me [who cleaves to and trusts in and relies on Me] as the Scripture has said, From his innermost being shall flow [continuously] springs and rivers of living water.”
So in your marriage, you have the CREATIVE power in your words to “frame-up” or speak into existence or create. Whatsoever you decree over your life shall come to pass, in accordance with God’s Word. If you need healing in your body, you ought to decree health over yourself. If your spouse needs a job, declare provision and promotion into the atmosphere. This principle goes down even to the tiniest details of your life. That is why it is vitally important to speak life into your relationships and marriage; to speak life to your spouses spirit and physical body. To make decrees over your marriage and pray out scriptures over your life!!
Find some scripture promises that mean something to both of you and begin to decree them together. God’s word never returns void, it won’t come back empty handed… so what you speak out over each other and your families will come to pass.
Here are some I like to speak out loud:
Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife finds a good thing AND obtains favor from the Lord!”
Psalm 118:17 (KJV) “I shall not die, but live, and declare the works of the LORD.”
Psalm 2:8 (NIV) “Ask me, and I will make the nations your inheritance, the ends of the earth your possession.”
Psalm 37:25 (KJV) “I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread.”
Psalm 91:16 (NIV) “With long life I will satisfy him and show him my salvation.”
1 Corinthians 2:16 (NLT) “For, “Who can know the LORD’s thoughts? Who knows enough to teach him?” But we understand these things, for we have the mind of Christ.”
Marriage in its truest union is when you can look beyond yourself, past the fog of selfish desires, peering deep into another’s soul. Find the spark that ignites their destiny dreams and be the one who holds the match that creates the flame.
It is ultimately selflessness… You must be the one your spouse looks to, for support, for prayer, for insight and inspiration. When you look beyond yourself and see the bigger, grander picture or tapestry of your life that the Master Weaver would like to create, this will allow the limits to be taken off and for your dreams together to flourish!